It’s preferable to be respectful to the woman who raised your man
but you should also find a way of limiting her influence in your home.
Having your mother-in-law active in your husband’s life can sometimes
be a big problem. Some women have admitted to me that they wished their
partner’s moms were dead. Others even say they wouldn’t want to marry a
guy whose mother is still alive. It’s almost like, the fear of your
mother-in-law is the beginning of wisdom. But whatever the case may be,
she’s alive and involved in your marriage. So, to keep things sane and
happy, here are five things you should never say to your mother-in-law.
1.) “Don’t ever come to my house again”:
Most mother-in-laws hate these words with passion. They hate when the
wives give them ultimatum not to see their sons whenever they want to.
They feel it’s their right to know everything about their sons’ lives
but don’t want you to have same right.
2.) “You are a bad mother”:
No mother wants to be labelled as a bad mom, not even yourself. Yes, she
could be problematic but does that make her a bad mother? The truth is
she raised the “good” guy you are now dating or married to. She’ll think
you are rude, ungrateful and disrespectful. This could be detrimental
to your relationship.
3.) “Stay away from my husband”:
These words will hurt any mother. Your husband is her son no matter how
you want to look at it. So show the woman some respect already! Some
mothers are mean, even to their own children but don’t be the one to
tell her that. Let her son do it. She’s been in her son’s life like
forever so asking her to stay away from the man she raised is
unreasonable.
4.) “You didn’t raise your son any better”:
Any mother hates when her ability to be a good mother is called to
question by anyone especially her daughter-in-law. She knows how she
raised her boy, and if the son isn’t complaining, you shouldn’t!
5.) “You’re a witch”:
This is very offensive to African mothers. To prove someone is involved
in witchcraft is almost impossible except you are a strong man of God or
involved in Spiritism. if you are not into any of these, then you may
have no right to call someone – certainly not your mother-in-law – a
witch. Instead, go down on your knees and pray!
ADVISE: Allow your husband or boyfriend handle his mother if she’s becoming too unbearable.
Source: 36ng
